Being able to connect to one’s feelings and naming them, especially negative emotions, helps a child deal with them. It also helps a child experience a sense of control over situations where naming one’s emotions can diffuse potentially harmful circumstances. But a child needs something even more important. Control over the amount of nourishment they need. Clearly a child does not have that control over their food supply, but becomes convinced that those who are in control will supply the needed amount. At the same time they are continually taught and encouraged to become self-sufficient, independent, when it comes to meeting their daily needs. That same training is not implemented when it comes to making certain a child becomes totally independent when it comes to acquiring the most important nourishment humans need to thrive and be happy. The energy that emanates from loving behaviors.